They were siblings, and had difficulties in their cross-state phone conversations. She was a tea-cup party member and he was a staunch democrat. While they had agreed not to discuss politics, and most conversations were civil, it sometimes came up in rather indirect ways. Once it reared its ugly heard, they went to battle.
Communication: The Moon
As the central theme for this reading, the Moon was an interesting one to appear. We see two animals barking (how appropriate). Like the reflecting sunlight given off by the moon, the siblings mirror each other in their unwavering viewpoints. Sometimes navigating through the Moon card is dangerous. There is a path that can take you from this murky land out into the sunlight, but it’s easy to get lost. Lost forever. And so this card also indicates that their communication issues could take them to a place of where they no longer loving siblings, but two people lost to each other.
Want / Need: Knight of Swords / Queen of Swords
Again, very interesting. Both cards are swords (intellect, communication), and the Knight and Queen have their backs to each other, facing away in opposing directions - also symbolic of the situation.
This is his reading, so we bring these cards into the context of each position based on his perspective. Want: The Knight is like the man in college who has lot of energy around his convictions and feels that if only people saw the light, they would all agree with him. Life feels a bit more black and white for him. Need: The Queen is older than the knight. Whereas the Page and Knight run about, engaging with others anywhere in the Kingdom, the Queen and King sit in their chair and allow others to come to them. And here in this card, we also see the Queen poised to stand up at any given moment. While he Wants to actively engage her, he Needs to do the opposite. This is not about waiting and letting the argument come to him, it’s more about being wise enough to know that nothing good comes from these arguments and he should sit with his political positions and not go out and trounce them on her.
Notice This: Strength
Tarot is suggesting that he notice when his lower self is getting the best of him. It’s this lower self that wants to prove his point. To open his mouth and bark at her. Be wiser like the queen. Notice these feelings, but don’t act on them.
What to do about it: 3 of swords
All of the minor arcana cards are swords. The 3 of swords can speak about the emotional suffering we experience when our minds focus on the negative. This particular image shows a heart against a tree - as if it’s a target and the swords are the arrows trying to piece the very center. The position “What to do about it” is meant to give guidance when we “Notice This”. When he feels his lower self wanting to verbally pounce on his sister, this position asks that he uses the strength of mind (swords) to pierce the the lower base feelings. It’s as if we can see the Queen of wands (sword raised) flinging it at the center of the heart.
All the cards provide a unified message and resonated with him. He realized that there was no good that could come from having these discussions and painfully recognized that they were really two sides of the same coin (unwavering in their sense of what they each perceived as right vs wrong). Tarot was not providing guidance on how he could convince her that she was “an idiot” (his words). Instead, it was about taking a mature approach that would help him rise above his knee-jerk reactions when the topic inadvertently came up. Squelch the rising emotions before they bubble up resulting in his mouth opening and saying things he would regret. Next, we could have done a separate reading on techniques to help him, but he said he had a decent meditation practice that allows him to have calmer days. He felt he could add this to his meditation practice.
(Tarot deck shown: The Prairie Tarot, by Robin Ator)